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For years, I struggled with my self esteem, doing the work I wanted to do, and my relationships.

• I believed I was not good enough - so I constantly shamed myself for how I looked, for the mistakes I made, and for not being like other people. I injured myself in the gym. I overwhelmed myself with responsibilities. I couldn’t smile at myself in the mirror. I was obsessed with success, being “masculine,” being right, and being attractive. I didn’t value me.

• I believed I was not good enough to create what I love. I felt what I loved was not valuable. I felt I was damned to fail. I destroyed my awards and art. I looked at other people doing what I wanted to do with frustration towards myself. I spent so much time trying to get permission to do what I wanted. For over ten years, I didn’t build what I love.

• I believed I had to prove myself in my relationships. I didn’t speak up about what bothered me. I believed to love meant to suffer and sacrifice what I value. I built up resentment that I released through passive aggression and infidelity. I focused on people’s emotions towards me instead of resolving the underlying issues. I ran away from my relationships.

Living like this was stressful and painful, so I looked for help.

I tried many things. I went to religion. I met with a therapist, psychologist, and coach. I joined groups and retreats. I read various self-help and history I books. I watched a lot of material on therapy. I learned about different philosophies across the world.

I started my journey believing I was broken. But I learned my feelings and behaviors were to be expected.
They were natural byproduct of the cultures I grew up with and the perspective I had about myself, other people, and the world.

As I shifted my culture (my values, my beliefs about myself, my beliefs about others, my beliefs about life), my life improved.

Across my life, my deepest suffering and causes for harming others stemmed from layers of beliefs and attitudes taught to me and reinforced in me. With therapy, psychiatrists, many books, and many experiences I was able to unravel those beliefs and the harmful behaviors they inspired. Over time, I replaced those beliefs with empowering truths that support me in growing the living I always sought while also nurturing others.

Across my journey I recognized a wide variety of people living as I once did, while constantly seeking to build a life they love, but held back. I saw that if we were all to arrive at the life we love while also loving one another even more, our communities could thrive together.

This inspired me to begin providing coaching support to help people build the life we love with:

Workshops - Lectures - Coaching - Art Installations

On the topics of:

Confidence - Relationships - Passions

제 삶 전반에 걸쳐, 제가 겪은 가장 깊은 고통과 타인에게 상처를 주게 된 원인은 제게 가르쳐지고 반복적으로 강화된 믿음과 태도가 여러 겹으로 쌓인 데에서 비롯되었습니다. 치료, 정신과 상담, 수많은 책, 그리고 다양한 경험들을 통해 저는 그 믿음들과 그것이 만들어낸 해로운 행동들을 하나씩 풀어낼 수 있었습니다. 시간이 흐르며 저는 그 믿음들을 더 힘이 되는 진실로 바꾸어 갔고, 그것들은 제가 늘 바라왔던 삶을 성장시켜 나가는 동시에 타인을 돌보는 데에도 저를 지지해 주었습니다.

이 여정 속에서 저는 과거의 저와 같은 모습으로 살아가며, 사랑하는 삶을 만들기 위해 끊임없이 노력하지만 보이지 않는 무언가에 가로막혀 있는 다양한 사람들을 보게 되었습니다. 우리가 각자 사랑하는 삶에 다다르는 동시에 서로를 더 깊이 아낄 수 있다면, 우리의 공동체는 함께 더욱 건강하게 성장할 수 있다고 믿게 되었습니다.

이러한 믿음은 사람들이 사랑하는 삶을 만들어갈 수 있도록 돕기 위해, 다음과 같은 형태의 코칭과 지원을 시작하게 했습니다:

워크숍 - 강연 - 코칭 - 아트 인스톨레이션

주요 주제:

자신감 - 관계 - 열정

Hi, I am from Los Angeles county California and now living in South Korea.

Growing up my parents told me I become what I really wanted.

My life has been a journey of unlearning perspectives that caused me harm and learning perspectives that empower me.